The Anatomy of a F*ck Boy

The Anatomy of a F*ck Boy

Fuck Boys: Where the fear of intimacy meets the need for validation. 

As a matchmaker, and a woman, I have come across many so called “fuck boys.” But what is a fuck boy? My definition is “a man who craves your validation, but fears intimacy with you.” Some people describe a fuck boy as, “a guy who wants boyfriend privileges, but not boy friend responsibilities.” In my opinion, the core of the fuck boy is the dualist between his fear of intimacy and the validation he craves which can only be received from intimacy. That is why being with a fuck boy is so fucking confusing! But better understanding the fuck boy and what causes his fuck boyish ways will help you to avoid the emotional traps of the next fuck boy you encounter.

It’s important to know that the fuck boy’s fear of intimacy doesn’t begin or end with you. It isn’t even contained to his love life. He has likely created an entire lifestyle that allows for isolation. Maybe he is a workaholic or works remotely. Maybe his day is so regimented with diet, exercise, work, etc… he has no time for deep friendships or a relationship. His friends & family likely complain for lack of attention & birthdays are often forgotten. The fuck boy isn’t afraid of loving you; he is afraid of being seen & nearly every person in his life is included in that fear. The point is, his inability to love you, has nothing to do with you and everything to do with his own dysfunction. 

What’s the best way to deal with a fuck boy? Not to. His fear of intimacy is deeply ingrained, likely stemming from withholding parents or other childhood trauma/neglect. It is not your job to heal another person. It isn’t even possible or ethical to heal someone against their will. Actually, the fact that you’re drawn to the fuck boy implies you have your own wounding that desperately needs attention. The best thing to do when you find yourself attracted to a fuck boy is to go deeper into your inner work and figure out why you are drawn to someone who is emotionally unavailable to you. 

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Being pulled into the dysfunction of a fuck boy will only cause pain & existential distress. With the fuck boy you may experience the most intense emotional & physical intimacy of your life. This is their suppressed need for intimacy bubbling up. The intimacy feels far more intense exactly because it has been suppressed and therefore holds a deeper emotional charge. Intense does not necessarily = good.

Once the fuck boy realizes intimacy has occurred, he will use insults, physical distancing, ghosting & other distance creating mechanisms to squash any connection & attachment that he has accidentally let slip through. This will likely be combined with a desperate need for validation. He will ask you for compliments & reassurances & in doing so project his insecurity & need for parental validation onto you. Although the fuck boy may claim he doesn’t believe in monogamy, his need for validation will likely make him jealous, wanting to know where you’ve been & if you are seeing other people. He needs you to chase him & only him in order to feel good about himself. Anytime his self worth is feeling low, he will push you away just to watch you chase him again. It’s a sick game in which your pain is required for his ego pleasure.

The cycle of intimacy & distancing can occur every few days or every few minutes. But the end result is always emotional torture for you. When the fuck boy tells you he doesn’t want a relationship, you better believe him, because doing otherwise is committing to a cycle of dysfunction that will leave you emotionally bankrupt & doubting your own sanity. In this case, the fear of intimacy, may very well be contagious.

Why This Is the Best Time to Find Your Soulmate

Why This Is the Best Time to Find Your Soulmate

Have you read 1984 or Brave New World? Something that caught my attention as a matchmaker is in both of these dystopian realities, romantic love is illegal. What is so scary about love to Those Who Seek to Control that both Orwell & Huxley made it major plot points of their novels? Why would love need to be illegal in totalitarian societies?

Why do you think the media is constantly berating us with images of failed romance & broken marriages? Why do you think we are told that monogamy is unnatural & impossible? Why has dating been gamified? Why are we so jaded about love? Because falling in soul deep love shatters our allegiance to false realities. Mind control is always based on fear. Love & fear cannot coexist. When we are in love, we are far less susceptible to fear based mind control.

Being seen & loved fully is the ultimate revolution. True love is an ascension into a new way of being. It is a stepping stone to better understanding the Divine. Falling in love is accessing our greatest power as humans, our ability to connect.

In a monogamous soul bond, we create our own world with our partners, which becomes a practice in crafting our own realities, in creating paradise on earth. When we trust in our ability to create our own worlds, we can’t be controlled. Is it any surprise Those Who Would Keep You Small, want you to stay single, swiping, sleeping around & empty?

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Right now, we are in a moment of global shift towards a Love centered reality. Because of that, more soulmates are reuniting now than ever. The vibration of soulmate reunion, shifts not just their lives, but the entire collective. It was never meant to be a challenge to reunite with your beloved & as the days go on it is going to get easier & easier to manifest them. This is literally the perfect time to set you intention towards calling in your soulmate & the transformative powers of love.

If you are single, now is the time to melt the blocks of false programming & open your heart to love. Revoke your consent fully & completely from any programming that says you are unworthy of love & that finding a mate will be hard. Revoke your consent from the FALSE programming that all men cheat. Revoke your consent from programming that makes you cynical about love. Soften. Open the space in your life to reunite with your Beloved because I assure you, it is coming.

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How To Actually Find A Relationship On Dating Apps in 6 Steps

How To Actually Find A Relationship On Dating Apps in 6 Steps

In the matchmaking world, dating apps are definitely vilified. I get it. Dating apps can be dangerous. And they can be a massive waste of time. Plus, some people are just too sensitive to deal with the exposure and rejections. So, yeah, there are a lot of downsides to dating apps. But the truth is, most singles are using them. And I know from my own personal experience, as well as the experience of my clients that it is still possible to meet someone on apps. I’ve spent literally thousands of hours on apps recruiting potential matches for clients, so at this point, I basically have a PhD in dating apps. But why do some people seem to rock dating apps and always find a relationship, while others are just wasting their time? If you’re interested in learning how to find a relationship on dating apps, read on because I’ve broken it down for you in 6 simple steps.

1) Know What Your Dealbreakers Are

To get what you want, you first have to KNOW what you want. It’s amazing to me how many singles I talk to who literally have no idea what they are looking for in a partner. I call this the spaghetti method. They throw a bunch of spaghetti (or swipes) at the wall and just go with whoever sticks around.

This is not an effective strategy for finding a long term partner and it’s the number one reason you and all of your friends are burned out from dating apps.

To actually be successful online dating you need to be laser focused on what you are looking for. I know a lot of people haven’t really thought about dating this way and are probably scratching their heads. If you have no idea what you’re really looking for, the easiest thing to do is to start with what you don’t want.

Let’s start backwards. Think back on your last relationships. Why did they end? What didn’t work? What are the aspects of those relationships you are absolutely not under any circumstances bringing into your next relationship? These are your dealbreakers, Know them. Own them. Do NOT bend on them.

Some examples of dealbreakers might be:
-Heavy Drinker
-Poor relationship with money
-Lack of work ethic
-Narcissistic qualities
-No passions or dreams

Now do your list!

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2) Be Honest About What Your Want

A huge trap I find women falling into is that they want a relationship but they don’t want to own that fact. When did it become uncool to be honest with people about what we want? 

This is what I see happening. A woman knows she wants a relationship. She does not ever tell the guy she is dating this fact, assuming that he knows what she wants and that he feels the same way. Eventually, she stops seeing other people. Friends ask her if they have had the talk about exclusivity. She says, “No, but I know we are serious and he isn’t seeing other people. Why would we need to talk about it?” He is, in fact, seeing other people and has no desire for a relationship.

Broken heart ensues.

Here’s the thing, we are all adults. And dating apps are a mixed bag. If you want a relationship, you need to be honest about it. And you need to actually ask people what they want. Personally, I recommend having this discussion before you meet someone. A lot of singles tell me that is too awkward. Sometimes being an adult means pushing through awkwardness in order to be true to yourself and get what you want. If the person you are chatting with is also looking for a relationship, they will be honest and you can move forward with more comfort. If they are not, they will be honest and not go out with you.

If someone decides not to go out with you because you aren’t looking for the same things, don’t look at it as rejection. They just SAVED you time and potential heartache.

Another trap women fall into is they want to date someone but that person does not want a relationship. The woman for some reason thinks, “Oh, well if we start having sex he will eventually want a relationship with me.” No, he won’t. And you will end up heartbroken, having wasted more time & energy on a dead end.

The truth will always come out in the end, so let’s set the tone for all of our relationships and start being honest up front.

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3) Don’t Try To Impress Anyone

Oh man, I was sooo guilty of this in the past. Some of us treat every date like a job interview. We are on our best and most polished behavior. Sure, we blur the lines and fudge details a bit, but who doesn’t in a job interview? We smile, nod, fake laugh, then go home hoping we get an offer.

But wait, where was our real personality? Did we take the time to figure out if we even want the job?

So many women see a relationship as the end goal and will do anything to get there. But being so focused on their goal, they forget to play the field. They forget to test the water to see if they could actually be compatible and happy with the person they are on a date with.

You aren’t trying to impress anyone here. You’re trying to see if your authentic selves can create joy and harmony in a relationship. Pretending to be someone you are not will not lead to a lasting connection. When the truth comes out, it will just leave both parties confused and disappointed.

Be yourself.

4) Keep An Open Mind

While having no deal breakers or standards is a huge problem on dating apps, the opposite can be just as much of an issue. I have worked with a lot of clients who had obsessively specific requirements and absurdly high standards.

Some examples:

“Must be 5’2 or below, brown hair, brown eyes, dark skin tone, Jewish, good sense of humor, works in medical field, size 2 or below, great in bed.”

“6 foot or above, makes more than 300k a year, lives in the city, but prefers country living, eats all organic, prefers to eat at home, but also appreciates fine dining, likes to cook, but lets the woman do most of the cooking, must have a spiritual practice, but not a religious background, only flies first class, works remotely, philanthropist, aware of current events, does not hunt or own guns, no strong political leanings, but still follows politics.”

There is more wrong with both of these list than the fact that they are obsessively specific. The main issue is that these attributes have nothing to do with whether this person with make a good partner. Both of these lists are so specific and focused on the superficial they will inevitably rule out great matches who are partner material.

Both of these people will be disappointed by anyone they meet and are likely using their absurd requirements to cover up an avoidant attachment style and pain from previous relationships. I mean really, how many people can actually meet these standards.

One of the dangers of dating apps is that it’s easy to rule people out based on the superficial. But those aspects do not tell you whether or not this person will be a good long term partner for you. Focus your energy on getting to know people and what they bring to the table as a life partner. Sure, maybe he is 5’8, but he also invests his money wisely, has a great sense of humor, works on himself, and will make a devoted father. What is more important to you?

For more on putting together an authentic, soul based list, check out my article here.

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5) Be Willing to Walk Away

So you’ve invested a few dates, or even a few months in someone, only to realize they aren’t really what you are looking for and violate one of your deal breakers. What do you do? Without hesitation you walk away. Saying no to what you do not want is a huge step towards manifesting what you do want.

So why do singles struggle with this step so much?

For one they are already emotionally involved. Attachment happens just through spending time with someone, but if you’ve already had sex your bonding hormones have kicked into overdrive and are telling you to stay put. It’s one of the major reasons I tell my clients to wait to have sex until they have established exclusivity. The reality is, it’s harder to walk away once you have had sex. But if you are serious about finding a long term relationship, you have to walk away from anything that does not serve you.

6) Set Boundaries

Yes, of course with the people you are dating. But I also mean with yourself. If you are on dating apps for hours every day and responding to messages whenever they pop up, you are going to get burned out. Plus answering messages after 10 pm starts to send the wrong message to potential suitors.

One tool I recommend in my free ebook, Mindful Dating in the Digital World (download here to learn more on how to find a relationship on dating apps) is to set office hours for when you are available on dating apps. Limit yourself to one hour of swiping a day. And while you are using the apps, actually give them your full attention. There’s nothing worse than watching a movie or grabbing a coffee with a friend only for them to spend the whole time swiping and responding to messages. That’s just shortchanging your friends and the guys you are messaging.

Set aside limited time to swipe and respond to messages. Trust me, this will help keep you focused on the task at hand, i.e. finding a partner, rather than using dating apps as a way to fill your time when you’re bored or make you feel good about yourself when you’re feeling down. Both of those things are tempting distractions that will get in the way of finding a relationship.

How to Find a Relationship on Dating Apps: Making it Work for You

It might seem like I’m laying out a bunch of rules here. And trust me, I know there’s already hundreds of books and articles filled with rules for dating. But the main point I’m trying to make here (and in all my work) is self worth. All of these rules are about putting yourself, your needs, and your heart first. When dating, it’s easy to put your desire for a relationship before everything, but that will never work when it comes to manifesting in a high quality, serious relationship on dating apps. That’s how you end up losing yourself in a relationship.

Put your needs first, set clear boundaries and communicate them, take the time to learn about yourself and figure out your needs in a relationship. Be a person who values themselves. Be honest. Be authentic. That’s all you really need, despite the hundreds of books out there.

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How Justine Paid Off 66k In Debt While Traveling

How Justine Paid Off 66k In Debt While Traveling

I am super excited to share this interview with my matchmaker friend and colleague, Justine! Like many of us, Justine was saddled down with 66k in debt after finishing her Master’s. Too many of us end up in debt after finishing school with no idea how we are going to pay it off while working an office job and living in an expensive city. It can start to feel like a burden we’ll never escape from.

Justine was able to pay off 66k in debt in under a year while traveling. I think what’s so amazing about Justine’s story is she shows that you can make smart financial decisions, not despite the fact that you’re traveling, but because you are traveling. Justine paid off her student loans because she was able to use travel to reduce her cost of living, while creating a life of more freedom for herself.

Read on for more about Justine’s travels and how she paid of her student loans while living as a digital nomad!

1) Tell us a little bit more about you! What do you do?

Hi! I’m Justine Luzzi, I do a few things! I am an Intuitive Reader + Teacher, helping awakened and sensitive souls navigate this crazy world! I also just started a new coaching venture focusing on Conscious Love & Healing from Toxic Relationships. I’ve been a virtual matchmaker for a long time now, but my bigger mission involves teaching the world what authentic and universal love feels like.

2) What inspired you to travel for 4 months? Why South East Asia?

I have always dreamed of being location independent. Traveling has always been a passion of mine. Needing permission from someone to physically do my work elsewhere felt really limiting. Four years ago I had a corporate job in digital marketing, that could have been done 100% remote and they wouldn’t let me work from home one day a week. I felt trapped.

I began to do some healing work on myself, and realized, I needed more freedom. I quit that job, and looked tirelessly for remote work that would suit my new venture in life. I found it with virtual matchmaking and intuitive card readings. When my lease was up in NYC, I threw out most of my stuff (it was old anyway) and booked a flight to SE Asia. The plan was Vietnam, Cambodia, Laos, Singapore, and Malaysia.

My connection to SE Asia was solidified when I took my first trip to Thailand in 2013, so I made the decision to start my digital nomad journey there. As my fellow travelers know, not all travel plans pan out exactly the way you envisioned it. While in South East Asia, I made it to Ho Chi Minh, Vietnam and Siem Reap + Phnom Penh, Cambodia, but after two months in Asia, trying to accommodate my clients in EST timezone started to take a toll and I knew I needed a change.

I decided to spend the remaining months of my trip in Europe where the time difference was much more doable. I spent most of my time in Athens, Greece and Belgrade, Serbia.

I had planned on spending more time as a digital nomad, but the greatest city in the world, NYC, was calling me home. I also started to feel unsettled being in a different time zone, different language, different currency, every few weeks.

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3) A lot of people think spending 4 months traveling sounds like a bad financial decision, but you were actually able to pay off all of your student loans (66k!) that year. How did you make that happen?

I lived so cheaply! As a New Yorker, I’m used to a high cost of living. Living in South East Asia and Eastern Europe was actually super affordable! I’m also a travel hacker. I used my credit card points for great deals, ate a lot of street food, and checked travel blogs for the best deals.

The idea that traveling is expensive is just a limiting belief. I lived like a queen and most of my expenses for the month were not more than $500 USD. I was able to save a lot of money and throw it towards my 66k in debt. 3 months after I got back from my travels, I was able to pay everything off!

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4) How did travel change your outlook about your life or career?

It changed so much of my outlook. As Americans, I personally feel we have an obligation to leave the country and live how others live. To me, this creates a lot of empathy, gratitude, and inclusiveness. I love feeling like I’m the minority, and not fitting in. It teaches me a lot about humility.

It has also taught me a lot about work-life balance. I’ll admit, I did work a lot while I was traveling, so it was challenging. Some days I had a 10 hour day and never left the Airbnb, except to grab food. But it is important to understand that you don’t have to be in a cubicle being micro-managed to do great work. We’re not caged animals. If a company has hired you to do their work, they need to trust that you will do it. I had a lot of trust from my employer, and that’s one of the things I loved about my company.

I also want to add, it’s OK to get sick of this lifestyle. I found myself beating myself up a bit when I wanted to come home. It’s hard being on the road so much. It’s OK to crave stability. Just lean into what feels good.

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5) What advice do you have for anyone who wants to become a digital nomad?

Sooo much. First, don’t make plans so far in advance. You don’t know what’s going to happen. Let it flow. Be realistic within 2 weeks time, but you can’t be that rigid. You don’t want to book an entire place for a month to find out they have bed bugs (that happened to me in Ho Chi Minh). Be alert- pay attention. I tried to cross the Vietnam border by bus with an expired passport- not pretty- I owe everything to the English-speaking bus driver who sorted everything out. Book enough time in a place that allows for a 40-hour work week AND exploring. Oh, and have fun and be curious 🙂

Feeling inspired? You can learn more about Justine and connect with her at her Youtube Channel.

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Alexis Smart Flower Remedies Review: “Whole Hearted”

Alexis Smart Flower Remedies Review: “Whole Hearted”

When I was introduced to Alexis Smart Flower Remedies (through the Expanded Podcast with Lacy Philips), I have to admit, I was intrigued, but skeptical. The idea that consuming a flower essence could unravel years of trauma was definitely appealing to me. At the time I thought that healing required difficult labor, thousands of hours at the therapists office, and hard won breakthroughs. Although I was hesitant to order some of her remedies, I was eager to believe that plants could help us heal our emotional upheaval and trauma more quickly. But when I went in search of an Alexis Smart Flower Remedies review written from personal experience, I couldn’t really find any. So I decided to start experimenting with her remedies and write a series of totally honest reviews for people like me–intrigued by their potential, but skeptical.

This article is a review specifically of Whole Hearted, however, I have worked with seven of Alexis Smart’s other remedies and will include some of my insights from these other experiences. Reviews for other remedies in the same product line will be coming soon! I also want to highlight that I am not sponsored by or affiliated with Alexis Smart in any way, nor am I an expert in Bach Flower Remedies.

This Alexis Smart Flower Remedies review is based almost entirely on my personal experience but also includes insights reported back to my from some of my clients or friends who have taken these remedies. Your experience may be entirely different! What happened while I was on this remedy is more a reflection of my internal state at the time and what the remedy was bringing up to heal, rather than a reflection of the remedy itself. I tried to be as detailed as possible in this review, so it is a bit long, but it definitely contains a lot of useful information if you are thinking about experimenting with Bach Flower Remedies.

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What is Whole Hearted?

Whole Hearted is a flower remedy designed by Alexis Smart in the tradition of Dr. Edward Bach. Dr Bach discovered the healing power of flowers in the 1930s after witnessing the trauma, and what we now know to be PTSD, of soldiers returning home to Britain from the trenches of World War I. He felt intuitively that if their emotional stress could be treated, the body would be able to heal itself. Dr. Bach eventually created a system of vibrational medicine using the flowers growing around him, after he left his London practice and moved to the English countryside.

Each of the flowers used in the remedies has a unique energetic imprint the resonates with a certain symptom or experience in the energetic or emotional body of the patient. This resonance is what delivers the healing.

After you order a remedy from Alexis Smart, it will arrive within 10 days in a blue bottle with a dropper. They are made of spring water and flower essences, with brandy used as the preservative. If you have issues with alcohol you can order them alcohol free as well. To ingest the remedy, drop four drops under your tongue, four times a day. Consistency is key!

Whole Heart is one of what Alexis Smart calls the Foundational Formulas. She explains on her website, “My Foundational Formulas heal you at the deepest level. Foundational Formulas are designed to heal old wounds, which may be the cause of current suffering. Trauma, grief and fear can leave lasting impressions on the body, mind and emotions. Often, we may not even realize we have been effected by an event, because the symptoms we are presenting may be seemingly unrelated.” From what I understand, if you are new to flower remedies, it is best to start with one of the Foundational Formulas.


In Love vs. Whole Hearted

Before using Whole Hearted I had used In Love, Soul Purpose, and First Aid Kit. I found In Love to be very intense. While using In Love, I had an emotional “breakdown to breakthrough” on day 10 of using the remedy. Leading up to that, I had felt the remedy working on me on both a physical and energetic level. I had a similar experience while on Soul Purpose, also on day 10, but it was slightly less emotionally intense. On both remedies, I felt it ramp up until day 10 where I had the “breakdown,” and purged a lot of emotions through some pretty hardcore crying accompanied by a revelation. After day 10, I felt burned out, but my energy levels gradually picked up and I felt a gentle come down from the remedy over the next 20 days.

Alexis Smart recommends taking Whole Hearted, then In Love. But for whatever reason I felt pulled to In Love first.

After I took In Love I got a lot of feedback that I should have started with Whole Hearted. I have to say, I’m really glad I didn’t. Whole Hearted was such an intense experience for me and so physically embodied, if I hadn’t already experienced a Bach Flower Remedy, I would have been deeply freaked out.

So far, Whole Hearted has been the most physically embodied remedy I have taken. Yes, the purging can be intense, but it’s by no means negative. These plant allies are deeply loving and give us the experience we need at the time. They only give us as much as we can handle, so if you are experiencing it, it means you can handle it.

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My Experience with Whole Hearted

I decided to take Whole Hearted because of a dream. I dreamt that a doctor was holding up X-rays of my chest and said, “You have cancer of the heart. It’s from your job.” At the time, I was going through a breakup and dealing with a really toxic work situation. I took the dream as a warning and decided it was time to cleanse my heart.

As I mentioned, I had a very intense experience with Whole Hearted. Coincidentally, taking this remedy also fell in between a solar and lunar eclipse AND Mercury retrograde. I was feeling highly activated at the time and some of the physical symptoms I experienced might have been related to the eclipses as well as the remedy.

The remedy started really working on me around day 7. I had body pains and aches, mostly in my back, and started to feel deeply, deeply tired. At night it felt like energy was rolling off of my body and had intense dreams. I also experienced a horrible stomach ache, plus pain in my chest. One night while falling asleep I intuited that the pain I was experiencing was guilt trapped in my body. Hello, Catholic Guilt!

On night 8 of the remedy, the pain in my heart was so intense, if I hadn’t known what was happening, I might have taken myself to the hospital. It felt like my heart was literally on fire. If you’ve seen The Ecstasy of St. Teresa by Bernini (pic below), that is a perfect representation of what the pain in my chest felt like. Flower remedies, alexis smart, bach flower remedies, homeopathy

My body was completely exhausted, but I still had a kind of restlessness in my limbs, sort of like Restless Leg Syndrome. I was up most of the night with chest pain and nausea. But I did find that putting a piece of selenite against my chest really helped with the pain.

It was a tough night, but I woke up in the morning feeling surprisingly refreshed despite getting only a few hours of sleep. Around 5pm I got sleepy again and took a three hour nap. After 11pm I started to feel the physical restlessness mixed with deep exhaustion again, but that night was less intense.

Around day 11 or 12, the remedy did seem to settle down and the restless nights, as well as the physical symptoms eventually disappeared.

My Takeaways

I took this remedy because I knew that I needed a cleansing of my heart space. Well, that is definitely what I got!

For me, Whole Hearted felt like a remedy to get to business clearing blocks. However, the clearing felt multidimensional. I definitely had a lot that needed to be cleared from my life, but the healing also felt deeper, like I was clearing from past lives as well. While experiencing the emotional purging with other remedies, I was able to pinpoint what was being cleared. But with Whole Hearted, it was just waves and waves of pain I couldn’t necessarily pinpoint.

I definitely feel like a lot of pain was released from my heart space as well as my stomach. This remedy has been the most effective tool I have ever used for clearing the heart chakra and releasing trapped pain. I can’t imagine how many thousands of dollars I would have had to spend in therapy to get this kind of emotional release. I definitely feel confident saying in my Alexis Smart Flower Remedies review, these remedies are well worth their cost of $42.

Everyone’s experience with these remedies will be slightly different. In my experience, it took several days before I started feeling Whole Hearted, but my friend and colleague Dorothy Stover, felt it almost immediately. She told me, “Within 24 hours of taking Wholehearted I felt a massive pain in my chest. I knew it was grief from my mother dying the year before. I used meditation and continued with Whole Hearted accordingly to release the grief. Within a day, the pain in my chest was gone. By the end of the bottle I felt lighter and ready for my next step in life. It wasn’t a big shift. It was subtle and a gentle nudge.”

Like me Dorothy is a big believer in flower remedies. You can read her Alexis Smart Flower Remedies review here.

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Tips When Taking the Remedies 

Avoid Intense Exercise.

Personally, I found it’s best to avoid intense physical activity. While on In Love I made the mistake of hitting the gym for a super intense work out then going for a sweat in the steam room. I was already purging pretty hard from the remedy, but the added purge of my workout plus sweating it out in 115 degree temperature was way too much for me. I started to feel really emotionally overwhelmed and decided light yoga and stretching might be a better choice while on these remedies in the future.

While taking Whole Hearted, I definitely had the urge to workout because my body was shedding so much anxiety and excess energy. However, I also found that I was having body aches all over and was exhausted to my core. It was a similar feeling to having the flu. Despite the random surges of energy, I felt hitting the gym was out of the question.

Choose the Right Remedy.

Not every remedy will work for you 100% of the time. The remedies respond to your vibration and current emotional state. If you choose a remedy that isn’t a match for you, you likely will not feel anything. Use your intuition and read the descriptions in detail to pick the right one.

Be Consistent.

If you take one of these remedies and don’t feel anything it’s either that you chose the wrong remedy or you were inconsistent with your dosage. You have to take these remedies four times a day, every day for 30 days to feel the full effects. If you keep forgetting to take the remedy you likely won’t feel anything, so set a timer on your phone to remind you.


Alexis Smart Flower Remedies Review Final Thoughts

I am no expert on vibrational medicine, but I have found the flower remedies are able to gently enter my energetic field and begin peeling back layers of pain, shame, and programming, revealing my authentic self below. They bring to the surface that which I have been hiding from myself. Things I would not have been able to reach with therapy alone. For me, it has always felt like these remedies are deeply intelligent essences that remove blockages and allow my being to find its own healing within. When I am on these remedies, I also feel like I can see my life from a totally novel perspective. Who knows, maybe I’m seeing things from the point of view of our plant allies.

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