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Hi 👋 I’m Issy & I’m a matchmaker. Yes, that

Hi 👋 I’m Issy & I’m a matchmaker. Yes, that means Love is my full time job. Yeah helping people find love then going to their weddings is pretty great, BUT the day to day work mostly consists of seeking out relationship minded men & women to set up on dates with our clients. We have to set up the first date before we get to eat 🎂 at the their wedding, right?
Here’s the deal. Dating apps can be a great way to meet people. But apps are a numbers game. Not everyone has time for hours of swiping & dozens of average dates. How do you even filter for people who share your intentions or any of your interests? That’s where we come in. Our clients come to us because they are READY to find a relationship, and frankly, don’t have the time for endless swiping... Enter you. If you’re reading this you’re probably ready for a relationship. I mean, how many times have you downloaded an app, swiped around, deleted it, downloaded it again it, went on a bad date, then deleted it? Trust me, I feel you. It’s time consuming & exhausting.
If you’re reading this it’s because we have clients in your area who we would love to set you up on a date with... totally free & no string attached for you. Yep, this is not a sales pitch. We are genuinely looking for matches for our clients in your area. And while our clients do, of course, pay fees, you never will. After a brief interview process with one of our matchmakers, we may set you up on a personalized date with one of our incredible clients. If we don’t have someone perfect for you right now, we’ll reach out in the future when we do.
If you’re looking to meet your person, you’ve got nothing to lose. Best case scenario you live happily ever after with a total meet cute. Worst case scenario you have a fun story about being set up by a matchmaker & a free alternative to dating apps. If you’re interested in learning more, send me a dm! Have a friend who might be interested? Tag them below! We look forward to matching you 💋💕💋

🍁Why Men Cheat🍁 . The nature of femininity

🍁Why Men Cheat🍁 .

The nature of femininity is naturally fluid & changeable. As there are many faces of the Goddess, every woman also has many faces. A woman can be a successful businesswoman, a homemaker & express herself as a submissive sex kitten behind closed doors, all in one day. This variability works hand in hand with the masculine desire for variety. 🍁

Variability & unpredictability is the essence of feminine energy. Like the ocean, it can change at any moment. Sometimes that can be pleasant. Sometimes the emotional intensity the feminine experience can be terrifying, even for the most high self worth masculine. However, the high self worth masculine is able to surf through these changes. He even finds them exciting as they satisfy his need for variety. 🍁

Unfortunately, the man who is in low self worth masculine energy is not able to hold space for the many faces of feminine expression. A natural function of masculine energy is to create safety. The low self worth man is unable to create a sense of safety in himself or in his world. As such, the variability of the feminine feels like a threat to him. He needs the feminine to be static & predictable in her expression in order to feel safe. Very often, this is tied to childhood trauma in which one or both caretakers was volatile, not allowing the child to feel the sense of safety necessary for healthy psychological development. Because of this, the wounded & low self worth masculine finds the variability of the feminine offputting. To feel safe, he needs the woman in his life to have only one expression. He needs her to be utterly predictable. When she steps out of the role he has created for her, he will punish her. 🍁

Tragically, his natural masculine need for variety cannot be suppressed for long. For that reason, low self worth men will need multiple partners to gratify his impulse towards variety, where as the high self worth masculine is naturally hardwired for devotion to one goddess. The low self worth masculine may cheat or reject monogamy altogether. Each of his partners will have a clearly defined expression of the feminine & a compartmentalized role in his life. Cont. below 👇

A few months ago I was eating dinner at Divya's Ki

A few months ago I was eating dinner at Divya's Kitchen in the East Village. Two women in their 30s sat down at the table next to me & of course started talking about their issues with men. One woman was texting a guy who had made it clear he wasn’t interested by ghosting her. As if that wasn’t bad enough, she was also forcing her friend to read & analyze these messages. I looked over her shoulder & saw that she was sending texts that were pages long. Her friend was actually encouraging her & saying that her honest expression of emotion might actually bring this guy back around to wanting to be with her. Not to be harsh, but yeah right. ⠀⠀
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As I walked around NYC alone on a Friday night, I passed by many groups of women. All of these women were talking about their dysfunctional relationships with men, looking for their friends to justify their obsession with someone clearly emotionally unavaialble, while projecting all their needs onto a disinterested man. What were the men I walked by talking about? Basketball. For women, obsession over men has become our favorite team sport. Women obsess over an emotionally unavaialble guy, then pass the ball to their friends, needing their friend to lie & tell them he must secretly like her or maybe he didn’t answer because he’s in the hospital. He isn’t in the hospital. He just walked down Avenue D with is friends & he isn’t thinking about you. Actually, he is thinking about large, sweaty men chasing each other with balls. ⠀⠀
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The mental gymnastics we perform to lie to our friends & ourselves has to stop. The present state of dysfunction in male/female dynamics relies largely on women being dishonest with each other. When I became a matchmaker, I decided to stop lying to friends about the men in their lives. I lost a lot of friends. Something that has shocked me recently is how fragile & kind of terrible most female friendships are. One reason female friendships are so shallow & suck so much, isn’t just that we’re chronically dishonest with each other, it’s that we’ve used obsessing over boys as our primary means of relating & bonding with each other since childhood. Cont. below 👇

🍁Dating men who need to be chased🍁 ⠀⠀ .

🍁Dating men who need to be chased🍁
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Authentic masculine energy does not need to be chased. The masculine includes the “hunter” archetype. It enjoys pursuing it’s desires & that includes its beloved. It partially a biological drive. Men were the hunters of society for thousands of years. ⠀⠀
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The man who wants to be chased is a man who is alienated from authentic masculine expression. Wounding within his masculine energy makes him feel he needs to be pursued in order to feel desired & secure in himself. A man who needs to be chased draws his self worth from external sources, which means his self esteem, personality & mood will always be fragile & variable. This is a recipe for volatility. ⠀⠀
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Of course, it’s human to want to be desired by your partner, to know they will go out of their way for you, that they will be honest in their feelings & desires. When I say “men who need to be chased” I mean men who will push you away just to see if you will come back. Men who will insult & disrespect you to see how badly you want to be with them. Men that will remain emotionally unavailable, but dangle their love & validation like a carrot because they get an ego trip on watching you struggle. This is masculine low self worth energy & should be avoided like the plague because men with low self worth are the kinds of men who become emotionally & physically abusive. The low self worth male needs your pursuit & suffering to feel important. He will punish you because of the power he gives you to make him feel confident or insecure. He feels threatened by your embodiment of the feminine because he is unable to embrace his masculine. He must make you feel small in order to feel safe. ⠀⠀
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I work with a lot of women who have learned to fear the masculine indiscriminately because of abuse from low self worth men. You never have anything to fear from men with masculine high self worth because integrity & creating safe space are inherently masculine qualities. A man who fully embraces his masculine will always be safe & will allow you the space to express your feminine. Masculine self worth = safe. Low masculine self worth = danger.

Fuck Boys: Where the fear of intimacy meets the ne

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It’s important to know that the fuck boy’s fear of intimacy doesn’t begin or end with you. It isn’t even contained to his love life. He has likely created an entire lifestyle that allows for isolation. Maybe he is a workaholic or works remotely. Maybe his day is so regimented with diet, exercise, work, etc… he has no time for deep friendships or a relationship. HIs friends & family likely complain of lack of attention & birthdays are often forgotten. The fuck boy isn’t afraid of loving you; he is afraid of being seen & nearly every person in his life is included in that fear. ⠀⠀
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What’s the best way to deal with a fuck boy? Not to. His fear of intimacy is deeply ingrained, likely stemming from withholding parents or other childhood trauma/neglect. It isn’t your job to heal another person. It isn’t even possible or ethical to heal someone against their will. Actually, the fact that you’re drawn to the fuck boy implies you have your own wounding that desperately needs attention. ⠀⠀
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Being drawn into the dysfunction of a fuck boy will only cause pain & existential distress. With the fuck boy you may experience the most intense emotional & physical intimacy of your life. This is their suppressed need for intimacy bubbling up. The intimacy feels far more intense exactly because it has been suppressed & holds a deeper emotional charge. Intense does not necessarily = good.
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Once the fuck boy realizes intimacy has occurred, he will use insults, physical distancing, ghosting & other distance creating mechanisms to squash any connection & attachment that has occurred. This will likely be combined with a desperate need for validation. He will ask you for compliments & reassurances & in doing so project his insecurity & need for parental validation onto you. Continued Below 👇

Figure out how you want to be loved and refuse to

In a world that over values productivity, material

In a world that over values productivity, materialism & perfectionism, to love from the soul is a revolutionary act. ⠀⠀
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As a matchmaker, something that makes me sad is seeing how much people want love + intimacy, & yet how much they avoid & hide from it. Hiding behind emotional walls because they are so afraid of being hurt again. Hiding behind their wealth, accomplishments, material items, because they don’t want anyone to see their inner child hoping to be worthy of Love. Sabotaging relationships as soon as the intimacy hits too close to their wounding. And what about the people who put off finding love indefinitely? “I’m too busy with the kids!” “My career is my top priority, right now.” But through all of this, wanting Love more than anything. ⠀⠀
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We’ve all done these things at one point. Although we are naturally hardwired to Love, we are programmed through society to believe that we have to do something, buy something, or achieve something before we are worthy of Love. That is an illusion. Because Love is our true essence; we always have access to Love within. ⠀⠀
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We’ve all heard the advice “love yourself first” before getting into a relationship. But what does that really mean? I believe it means we accept ourselves exactly as we are, where we are. We accept that we are worthy of Love in this exact moment no matter what. We stop needing to buy things, lose weight, get plastic surgery, earn more money... before we can receive Love. We stop chasing people & dead end relationships, hoping they will heal our wounds & make us feel worthy. We are already inherently worthy. ⠀⠀
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When we stop hustling after Love, Love can find us. We can love with our whole beings because we are no longer hiding from parts of ourselves. We can love another being completely because we are no longer afraid of being seen or that they will mirror something we don’t want to see. Accepting our worthiness & loving completely. That changes everything. That is the revolution. ⠀⠀
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If you believed you were inherently & 100% worthy of Love & your dream relationship, what would that change for you? How would you behave differently? What decisions would you make?

Social programming, bullying, & abusive relationsh

Social programming, bullying, & abusive relationships train us to believe that intimacy is unsafe. One of the greatest challenges coming up right now in the collective (I know I’m feeling it!) is reprogramming the belief from intimacy=danger to intimacy is safe & sacred. ⠀⠀
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One of the most empowering aspects of being human is our ability to connect with, support & love each other. The drive towards intimacy is a sacred part of our blueprint as humans. It’s also one of the greatest sources of our power on this plane. The only true power source we have is Creator. With intimacy, we see Creator reflected in another human. ⠀⠀
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Unfortunately, our society is very individualistic & not the most supportive of intimacy. Many of us had our natural instinct towards intimacy shattered through abusive childhoods, bullying in school & abusive romantic relationships. Right now, as we are self isolating at home, so many of us our realizing how deep & profound our drive for intimacy truly is & how powerful we are when we connect heart to heart. ⠀⠀
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I have been working through my issues with love avoidance the past week & wow. Right now I am using the Safe & Sound remedy from @alexissmartflowerremedies, helping me to feel safe occupying my body & heart. I’m also working through the @tobemagnetic Inner Child workshop with heavy doses of sunshine & Theta healing. I’m alternating between feeling heavy & liberating, learning to find peace in exhaustion, & accepting my perfection exactly where I am. ⠀⠀
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Something I’ve been thinking about—when the world opens up again, what do I not want to take out there with me? For me it’s perfectionism & avoidance. What are you leaving behind in quarantine?

🍁A world where love is illegal🍁 ⠀⠀ . ⠀

🍁A world where love is illegal🍁
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Have you read 1984 or Brave New World? Something that hit me as a matchmaker—in both of these dystopian realities, romantic love is illegal. What is so scary about love to Those Who Seek to Control that both Orwell & Huxley made it major plot points of their novels? ⠀⠀
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Why do you think the media is constantly berating us with images of failed romance & broken marriages? Why do you think we are told monogamy is unnatural & impossible? Why has dating been gamified? Why are we so jaded about love? Because falling in soul deep love shatters our allegiance to false realities. Mind control is always based on fear. Love & fear cannot coexist. When we are in love, we are far less susceptible to fear based mind control. ⠀⠀
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Being seen & loved fully is the revolution. True love is ascension into a new way of being. A way to better understand the Divine. Falling in love is accessing our greatest power as humans: our ability to connect. ⠀⠀
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In a monogamous soul bond, we create our own world with our partners, which becomes a practice in crafting our own realities, in creating paradise on earth. When we trust in our ability to create our own worlds, we can’t be controlled. Is it any surprise Those Who Would Keep You Small want you single, swiping, sleeping around & empty? ⠀⠀
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Right now, we are in a moment of global shift towards a Love centered reality. Because of that, more soulmates are reuniting now than ever. The vibration of soulmate reunion, shifts not just their lives, but the entire globe. It was never meant to be a challenge to reunite with your beloved. Now it will be easier & easier to manifest them. ⠀⠀
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If you are single, now is the time to melt the blocks of false programming & open your heart to love. Revoke your consent fully & completely from any programming that says you are unworthy of love & that finding a mate will be hard. Revoke your consent from the FALSE programming that all men cheat. Revoke your consent from programming that makes you cynical about love. Soften. Believe in miracles. Open space in your life to reunite with your Beloved because I assure you, it is happening.

Love is your essence. Romantic Love is your divine

Love is your essence. Romantic Love is your divine birthright & a vast well of power. Shatter all illusions that imply your separateness from Love. Revoke your consent from any & all programming & thought form projections that say you are unworthy of Love or that you will never find romantic partnership. These are all falsehoods meant to keep you small, disempowered & alone. Coming together in Love with other humans is radically world changing. Love is the greatest act of revolution. More soulmates are reuniting now than ever before as we step forward into a new reality. Your Love is the path to ultimate liberation. Your capacity to love transforms yourself, your beloveds, & your world. Love is the great Alchemist. Love is a time traveler. You are worthy of any & all Love today, right in this very moment. You can reunite with your soulmate & your entire soul family today. The only thing “standing in your way” is false programming that strives to diminish your wholeness & power. Revoke your consent & Be In Love. Always. 🍁 ☀️ P.S. the Sun is Love. Go outside.

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